Schools’ sex ed provider tells over 14s about violent sex acts

Violent sex acts have been portrayed as normal on a website aimed at over 14s by a sex and relationships educator.

Justin Hancock, who runs the sex advice website BISH, claims that acts such as choking someone during sex are “quite common” among adults and young people.

Hancock provides Relationships and Sex Education (RSE) for schools and boasts BISH is one of the “leading RSE resources for young people in the world”.

Illegal

Hancock explains on BISH “what rough sex is and why people might like it”. While he claims “you need to be quite a bit older to do a lot of this stuff consensually”, the article still appears in his online guide for everyone over 14.

Among activities he describes is “gagging” – which he says involves “restricting someone’s breathing with something in or over the mouth” – and “strangling”.

On 7 June, non-fatal strangulation or non-fatal suffocation became criminal offences under the Domestic Abuse Act 2021.

Crown Prosecution guidelines state: “defendants will be unable to rely on a victim’s consent to infliction of such harm as part of any so-called ‘rough-sex’ defence”.

‘Harmful’

Responding to the revelations, former teacher Miriam Cates MP said: “Any child development expert will tell you that children are not able to process this information and it is harmful.”

It is impossible to understand what would motivate someone to think that conflating violence with sex in materials aimed at children is a good idea.

And Tanya Carter, spokeswoman for Safe Schools Alliance UK, commented: “It is impossible to understand what would motivate someone to think that conflating violence with sex in materials aimed at children is a good idea.

“This dangerous culture needs to be challenged not reinforced.”

Hancock delivers RSE training for teachers at a cost of £1200 per day, and charges up to £600 to go into schools to teach over 14s about sex.